Six years ago today, my ex-husband walked out for the fourth and what I determined would be the final time.
It was shocking, traumatic and deeply upsetting – we had 3 kids, during our 16 years together and had weathered childhood cancer in one of our children amongst other things.
We were on vacation at his family home, so I was also left in the incredibly awkward and stressful position of being surrounded by his family as I came to the realization that I was finished with the marriage.
I wouldn’t have made it through that week without the love and affection and support from a cousin who had married into his family and who took me under her wing.
I decided to celebrate this day, on the first anniversary: I call it my Day of Freedom, because for the first time in 16 years I had decided to put my needs before those of my children or their father. It was scary, it was liberating and it was initially de-stabilizing – I was used to serving the needs of others before my own – but as with all things, practice makes it easier.
And this, as with other traumatic experiences in my life, lit the fire within me and ultimately contributed to the life and business and family I have today – which if I do say so myself is FREAKING AWESOME!
A few years ago, I decided to have the word Moksha – which means spiritual liberation, freedom – tattooed on my foot, to remind me, am I walking MY path, not the path that others believe I should walk, or the path that is imposed on me by my gender, race, age, skin color, marital status, sexuality etc.
So, I want you to know that I am committed AF to my (spiritual) freedom AND TO YOURS.
Let me know if you want to chat about what digging into and articulating and redefining your life on your terms might entail. I love to support people on their path to freedom using habits, life vision with a strong dollop of mindset.