Being Lead: The Power of Letting Go

I’ve just spent seven days on a yoga/hiking retreat. It was the first time I had traveled without a friend or my family since 1998.  As a mother, it can be hard to get away and to find a way to do it in a mostly guilt-free way.  My parents play a hugely active...

Expectations: Lower Them & Then Have Fun!

Will that donut taste as good as I imagine it? Will my new lover be as good as I imagine him to be? Will the Rolling Stones be as amazing as I have imagined them for the last 25 years? One of the tricks that I found myself using towards the end of my failing marriage,...

Cooking as a Way to Learn About Failure

I love to cook. All kinds of food, but particularly breads, cakes, pies, muffins, cookies – all things carb! My usual MO is to follow the recipe, and then, based on my experience, I tweak the ingredients. Sometimes, particularly when making things like breads,...

Create Your Happy Place

Day two of my vacation and although I’m jetlagged, I’m feeling profoundly relaxed.  Partly it’s because I’ve been lying down and reading novels, drinking tea, eating bread, cheese, hiking, spending time with my loving family. I’ve been considering why I find it so...

Emotional Contagion!

You walk into a room.  And before you even open your mouth, you know.  You can feel it.  Your heart rate starts to rise.  You feel hot & a bit nauseous as the cortisol starts to flow.  The person in the room is mad, steaming, angry and the volatility is...