Tamsin Astor, PhD, your Chief Habit Scientist shares with you “Ikigai Why Do You Get Out of Bed ” so you can cultivate the healthy habits to live a life of freedom!
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My next-door neighbor professed amazement that I mow my own lawn, do the weeding and shovel the driveway when it snows. She said she hated doing outside/garden work. But, she doesn’t mind doing stuff inside the house. So – she hires people to do all the outside work.
Another friend of mine hates doing yard work, so he moved to a condo, where his condo fees go towards managing the outside of the property. He effectively deleted the chore he disliked the most.
That’s the beauty of this approach. Reflect on what you consider to be a chore and then decide: to DO it, to DELETE it, or to DELEGATE it.
This tool is great for many areas of your life. When the task appears in front of you, you have a choice between the three Ds. You can:
1) Do it
2) Delete it, or
3) Delegate it
You can use this for your email inbox, you can use it for your household chores.
So – that’s what I did with the laundry – I decided to do the parts I could tolerate and to delegate the bits I really didn’t like. My kids and I share the sorting and washing. And I delegated the folding and returning to my drawers to a housekeeper. AHHhhhhhh. Life feels more pleasant now!
Tamsin Astor, PhD, your Chief Habit Scientist shares with you “Freedom The State of Not Being Enslaved” so you can cultivate the healthy habits to live a life of freedom!
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This is a task that I generally dislike intensely – but only one stage of it! Interestingly – I don’t object to carrying the baskets to the basement. I don’t mind sorting the clothes out according to color/washing instructions. I don’t mind jogging up and down the basement steps to move the clothes between the washing machine and dryer etc. The bit I dislike it the sorting. The next is the folding and the bit I REALLY REALLY dislike is the putting away!
I tried to develop strategies to make it feel better.
I reflected on my clothes, the experiences I had when I was wearing them, where I had bought them, gratitude for the journey my clothes had taken to get to my cupboard etc.
But none of these approaches really worked. I only liked doing that when I was super tired – I felt I had accomplished a task, which was fine when I had newborn babies! So, I went back to the drawing board.
Do you always walk or drive the same route from A to B? Do you notice the trees? The street signs? The color of your neighbors’ front door and how it changes during the seasons?
There are two things I like to do when I commute so it doesn’t become stale.
The first is to vary the route I am taking, to challenge my mental map of the area and to push me to pay attention to what’s going on around me.
The second thing I like to do is to take the opportunity to learn as I commute. Audible books, podcasts, learning a language, NPR – there are a lot of great things out there to soak up and ponder and help you reflect on your life and learn about!
Tamsin Astor, PhD, your Chief Habit Scientist shares with you “Those things you know, but can’t explain!” so you can cultivate the healthy habits to live a life of freedom!
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Tamsin Astor, PhD, your Chief Habit Scientist shares with you “Managing negative emotions for particular people!” so you can cultivate the healthy habits to live a life of freedom!
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I used to hate doing the dishes. I think that’s because in my marriage I did all the chores in the house, and this one particularly used to irritate me because my ex-husband would frequently cook separately from me and the kids and then leave his pans and plates out for “someone” to do.
At one point in a particularly difficult part of my marriage, I had a notepad on the kitchen counter and I tallied, daily the amount of time I was contributing to our shared life, in an attempt to demonstrate my effort. I logged dishwasher emptying, dishes, laundry, food/kids-related shopping, paying bills, taking out the garbage, changing light-bulbs, weeding the yard, taking kids to school, taking kids to after-school activities etc.
Then I mentioned this to my Buddhist studies teacher, who suggested I get really mindful in the process of doing the dishes. Feel the warm water, look at the intricacies of the plate: the color, the texture, the shape, reflect on the food that had been cooked in the pan and who had eaten it and their pleasure. Now I love doing the dishes. But I still hate unloading the dishwasher!
Tamsin Astor, PhD, your Chief Habit Scientist shares with you “How do you talk to yourself” so you can cultivate the healthy habits to live a life of freedom!
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